One thing that was of MAJOR importance to mean for this wedding was enforcing the concept of R.S.V.P.
For most Americans or those who have lived in the U.S. for a number of years are very aware of the concept of R.S.V.P., however, when it comes to most Nigerians (even those who are very aware of this concept) it becomes a foreign thing when requested to do so for a wedding.
I mean, is it really that hard? If this was an American wedding, Nigerian guests would have R.S.V.P'd with no problem, but because they know it's a Nigerian wedding, all of sudden, "it can't be done". Of course, the bride and groom (or the parents of) should ALWAYS know that you'll attend their events (Really? I should just assume that you have nothing else to do with your day, so you'll ALWAYS come to any event that you're invited to). In this day and age with harder economic times, you'd think others would be more considerate (but I guess it's never like that when it's not your money being spent), but I digress.
I offered my invited guests 2 different ways to be able to R.S.V.P:
- Online through our wedding website
- Phone through voicemail service
I impressed upon my mother, as well as my husband's family to inform people that the wedding was invitation only and that RSVPs were required. Of course, my and my husband's friends were the first to get their R.S.V.Ps in. I sent emails, texts, and facebook messages to every guest that I could to try my best to ensure that we would get people to do this.
And while many did, there were many that did not. The reason that I required R.S.V.P. is because I was implementing a seating chart for the reception, therefore, I would need to know who and who was not attending. By the day of the wedding, there were several people who had to wait to be seated (as opposed to being able to go right in with guests who had reserved their seats) because they forgot to R.S.V.P. As far as I know, we also had at least 5 crashers who were able to get seats due to guests who R.S.V.P'd but didn't show up (which I calculate to be at least 7 people).
This BY FAR, was the one thing that caused alot of headache and stress. However, all in all, I would do it again. What about you? As an African bride, would you implement R.S.V.P.ing at your wedding?