I, myself, was looking forward to this as I LOVE color! Many girls just change into iro and buba with gele but I'm not that traditional and wanted to change into my traditional clothing with a western style of dress. One of my favorites that I've seen is a bride that happened to be featured on Essence some time ago.
If you can't tell, the girl in the middle with the short dress is the bride. The girl who wore this dress actually changed 3 times and had 800 guests at her wedding. I'm sure the wedding must have been an all day event because their is no way I plan to change that many times during the wedding reception.
As I've continued planning the wedding I had long decided on what type of dress I wanted to change into for the reception. Because I created my own version of strassed shoes, I definitely wanted to show them off by wearing a short dress. But in general, short dresses aren't very formal or grande looking so I still wanted something grand looking especially since I am only changing once. I started tossing up some options and I finally came up with this option.
Of course, I'm only looking for the style of the dress to be made in African lace and chiffon, not this actual dress. I figured this style would satisfy my requirement of a short dress while still looking a little more grande, plus I wanted to make the train detachable so I could take it off while I was dancing. Simple enough, right?
My mother who has sewn for many, MANY years complained that she felt she wasn't involved enough in wedding planning (a decision I made that I may or may not get into in this blog, but she is very right that she has not been involved in the planning) and wanted to make my reception dress. I had ALOT of reservations but eventually trusted her to do it because I wanted her to feel like she did something for the wedding.
HUGE MISTAKE!!!
Not only did she make a dress that she BELIEVED that I should wear, she made up excuse after excuse after ALL of the fabric had been cut up as to why she couldn't make it in the way that I requested. Specifically she made a detachable train that went around my hips instead of under the bust area and she could never get the bust part of the dress right. Mind you, I went back and forth on specifications 5 or 6 times in the process. She eventually stated, alternatively, she could try to SALVAGE the dress and make another style of dress that looked more similar to this:
I was hesistant again about having her try to salvage the dress, but being the "good" daughter and all, I opted to let her try again.
Shame on me, because she messed it up AGAIN! It was looking okay until you got to the layered tiers on the dress. As you can see, there is a slit in this dress and when she remade the dress she made the layers uneven so that one side of the dress with layers is longer than the other. When I, as well as my fiance, explained this to her, she came up with excuse after excuse of why it was longer. When asked if she would fix it, she stated that she is no longer interested in fixing my dress. WAIT! WHAT!
You've cut up all my fabric and left me with a practically unusable dress to say that you are no longer interested in fixing it! I was done and so was my fiance. I'm now at the point where I have to find someone who will be willing to try and salvage the dress. It's not completely unusable, but I know the costs to fix it will be the cost of a new dress. Just for reference, I do have other fabric, but it's a completely different color than what I wanted to use, plus it's the aso-ebi color of my mother's friends for the wedding and I'm not sure if I want to use the same color as them.
I'm also considering other different styles of dress now. What do you think?
Can you tell I like ruffles?
If you've read this far, GOD BLESS YOU for reading my vent! I'm trying to figure out if there is another style of dress that I should go for. I'm also considering other styles of dress now. Or maybe I should just have a new dress made in the other fabric? What do you think? Please vote!!!
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I like number one best it reminds me of a fish LOL. maybe good maybe not so good! Hope it works out.
its easier to not just have a reception dress. We clearly have different styles, i actually hate ruffles
However, i like the original dress you were trying to make best of all.
Hope u are able to sort this out.
CHeers
I feel you... Good luck with the dress. Try not to get discouraged and remember that whatever you wear, if you wear it well (shoes, makeup, accessories, attitude and you look happy, it will look gorgeous). Whatever you end up wearing, just try to enjoy every minute of it and think positive... (i'm getting married in exactly a month from today, so I know what you are going through).
I personally love ruffles, and dress number 3 is my favorite with a beautiful ankara fabric you can get it done for less than $100. Or try to have somebody salvage the dress your mom made (just evening out the length right?). Remember, it's your day, dont let anything come between you and your choice of being happy no matter what!!! ;-)
Wow! I know you must be so frustrated with your mom! I like your original choice best. I hope you're able to figure this out! You'll look good no matter what though :)
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